I Want to Marry a Shemale
How many times have I seen a guy lead with this sort of heading on trans-based connection sites? More times than I care to recall.
Of all the things you could include in a personal ad seeking a transsexual? This - is the absolute worst!
For starters, the term “shemale” was created by the pornographic industry - and for all intents and purposes implies a transsexual prostitute. Thus, you’re immediately letting her know you understand nothing about who or what she is – as a person. Additionally, she knows the long journey some men go through coming to terms with their inherent attraction to transsexual women. She needs to know you sorted out this need with yourself, family & friends, etc. and you’re experienced enough to know what you like in a transgender-based loving relationship.
Using the term “she male” - makes it clear you know nothing in these regards.
In other words?
Don’t include the term “shemale” in a discussion with a transgender woman: ever!