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America's Foremost Transgender Woman


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Looking for a beautiful hot-blooded "shemale" like you’ve seen through on-line images and pornographic movies? Did those erotic images do something to your sexual desires - you never felt before?

You’re not alone.

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Interest in shemale partners for sex and love is at an all-time high.

Erotic imagery of transsexuals is the hottest category in all of adult entertainment. Aside from the brief boon in bondage erotica following the release of Fifty Shades of Gray no other subject of eroticism comes close. According to a recent article by Seth Rosen of The Examiner: “Nearly 190 million heterosexual men are attracted to transsexual women and actively seek romantic contact with or sexually explicit images of them annually.
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Finding True Love with a Transsexual Woman


Perhaps even more surprising than the numbers is who is watching it. California and New York were the top two states—accounting for 17.6 and 7.3 percent of transgender porn sales on GameLink last year. That's no big shocker given the liberal platform in those states. Even Illinois coming in at No. 3—with 5.6 percent—might not surprise some. However - what's the fourth largest market for transgender porn at 5%?

Texas - the home of right wing conservatism. may not surprise some people. Just behind that? Arizona - at 4.9%.
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Clearly something new is unleashed.

According to the latest Internet statistics, interest in ‘transsexual’ topics has risen more than 5,000 percent in the past five years, and interest in ‘transsexual dating’ has surged more than 400 percent. In the past 90 days alone, combined traffic from the top 10 adult sites and top 10 dating sites catering exclusively to trans-loving males has risen 350 percent. While some crossover invariably exists, heterosexual male visitors to these 20 websites now top 188 million annually. And this figure doesn’t include traffic counts from the additional 300+ transsexual sites already in existence.”




This section of my website is designed to educate you on what dating and loving a shemale is really like - versus just the fantasy plus how to find such a partner and deal with related issues. It’s based upon my own real life experiences and those of many of my transsexual girlfriends.

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If your like most guys, your primary motivation for reading this is the fulfillment of a desire to have sex with a hot shemale. If that’s your dream? You’ve got lots to learn! Underneath that sexy persona on the screen or in the photos is a real-live person who struggled through a life journey like no other.

In other words?
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Fantasy - is not reality. However, in my opinion - the reality is even better than the fantasy. Transsexual women represent some of the most incredible chicks you’ll ever come to know or love.

Calling her a "Shemale" is a big No-No
The term "shemale" was invented by the pornographic industry to describe a pre or non-operative transsexual female. It's not a term any transsexual woman finds endearing or complimentary - it's usually the equivalent of calling her a prostitute. Alas, many of the trans women who work as escorts flaunt the term in their ads - knowing its what most potential customers are seeking and desiring.
If you want to get anywhere beyond "paid sex" with a TS female? You need to erase it from your vocabulary immediately.
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In the sections that follow, you’ll learn how to meet, appreciate, understand and perhaps even love - such a lady.

Good luck!


Why Most Transsexual Women Want their Penis Removed



Most people naturally attracted to transsexuals are drawn to the pre-operative configuration of a beautiful woman with a fully functional male penis. For these people? That imagery - that combination - totally does it for them.
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Many of those same folks ask: why would a beautiful transsexual ever change that - since in their eyes? It’s what makes her such a special lady.

Additional Chapters included in This Section Include:

Desirability of Transsexual Women
Transgenderdate: Factors Affecting Trans Desirability
Why Transsexuals Get GRS
The Most Balanced and Happy TS Women
Common Transgender Personalities
What is it like to be transsexual?

Reasons Transsexual Women Want GRS



First off, lets clarify something in case you don’t already know. During GRS, her penis isn’t “cut off”. Rather a “hole” is dug to simulate a vagina and the tissue and nerve endings from the original penis are reconstituted to create a neo-vagina - including the vaginal walls and a clitoris. Nothing - is wasted!
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There’s lot of reasons why a transsexual woman wants GRS (Gender Reassignment Surgery / Bottom Surgery). Also, transsexual women face a host of personal & societal pressures to complete this process. These include:


  1. For some - GRS is about being complete…finally fixing mother nature’s mistake from birth. Lots of these gals hate witnessing their “appendage” when naked and having it removed is one of the most fulfilling experiences of their life.
  2. What’s there doesn’t work anyway - years of HRT & testosterone blockers often results in significantly decreased sexual desire and the inability to achieve or maintain an erection. Thus, for many gals its just no big deal saying goodbye to the symbol of having been born male since it no longer plays a role in function or pleasure.
  3. Most transgender women are naturally wired to being bottom - sexually-speaking. Lets face it: anal sex isn’t always a great option for penetration. For many? It gets old. Thus, having a vagina is much more practical.
  4. We live in a binary society: there’s men, there’s women. Society has come to know and embrace transsexuality but asks that we stick to one side of this established binary equation. Thus, GRS solves a lot of issues from when you’re pre-op or non-op. Legally-speaking? You’re not female until you’re done with GRS. This affects issues with career, health insurance, shared facilities like showers, shelters & gyms, etc.
  5. It gets you past a lot of societal drama. The first question on almost everyone’s tongue after they find out your transsexual? Have you had the final surgery yet. If we haven’t? They tend to treat us differently. It’s not fair - but its real and sucks!
  6. For some, GRS finally makes them finally feel like a real woman. Also, we can now have sex with a partner and not have to tell them right off they’re a transsexual. For some gals? These are both extra important issues.
  7. Trans World Hierarchy - Some gals are affected by a perceived hierarchy in the transsexual community that sometimes excludes non-ops & pre-ops as not yet a part of “the club”. Some transsexual gals get affected by this social pressure and desire to conform in their journey.
  8. Fat Storage and Muscle Atrophy - Being post-operative eventually results in a more feminine platform. Fat storage tends to change slightly: we actually get a bigger butt. Also, our muscle tone atrophies - which we tend to enjoy and appreciate.

Reasons Transsexuals Don’t get GRS



There’s numerous reasons transsexual women don’t get GRS. The most common reason? It’s expensive! Also, there’s sometimes never ending complications: it’s major surgery with lots of required healing time & required dilating efforts. It sometimes doesn’t go as planned resulting in long term complications. However, the current success rate is outstanding.

I’m best equipped to speak for myself in this regard: I didn’t get GRS - never will. I navigated the myriad of legal and social issues with an orchiectomy (testicles removed), not touting my unique configuration publicly and embracing things I considered more important than being “complete” - namely: finding the sort of loving partner I desired.
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If finding a suitable partner and getting married is a higher ranking goal than self actualization? I always advise other transsexuals to at least hesitate before seeking final surgery? Why’s that? Because there’s lots more men and women seeking a functional transsexual than a post-operative version. Thus, you greatly increase your odds of finding your dream mate staying non-op.

In my own instance, this was doubly important since I always - and still do - identified as a “top” with my female lovers (I’m not into men). Also, I was and still am more masculine at the ore than some of my brethren. Thus, a blend of genders felt fine with me, by nature.

This sort of path does require the help of modern medicine to make things work out. I went through a phase with HRT where I had trouble maintaining an erection and that only got worse following my orchie. Thus, I now get a monthly shot of testosterone & take a daily pill of low-dose Ciallis in order to remain functional. Dialing that concoction into the ideal mixture was no picnic.

It also requires a lot of confidence in your femininity. On more than one occasion I considered GRS earlier as I got overwhelmed by being trans. However, in my own situation, I discovered those issues weren’t necessarily going to be fixed by GRS: who sees beneath my skirt anyway? Very few people.

My unique path resulted in playful jabs from one of my closest friends - a long since post-operative transsexual woman who likes to jest I’m the consummate “shemale”. Coming from her? I take that as good humor.

I’m most definitely unique - a poster child for a way of life called: “I am, what I am”. My path was right for me - I’m legally female, I enjoy the improved presentation from muscle atrophy and fat storage and it helped me get past the drama of “being trans”. However, I can still please my partner consistent with my internal wiring. Most importantly, I’m happy and living a fulfilling existence. In the end - to me? That’s all that mattered.

The Bottom Line

Transsexual expression and evolution is a most personal journey. It’s not sex based - it’s much deeper. There’s a lot of valid reasons for getting the final surgery. There’s also a path between these lines. The final choice is up to the particulars of the transsexual woman.


The Most Balanced and Happy Transsexual Women



The biggest complaint I hear from men actively dating transsexual women is their lives are a mess and often drama-filled.
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Really???

Have you ever tried changing your gender? It’s almost impossible to hold it together during that process: its expensive and emotionally devastating.

Additional Chapters included in This Section Include:

Desirability of Transsexual Women
Transgenderdate: Factors Affecting Trans Desirability
Why Transsexuals Get GRS
The Most Balanced and Happy TS Women
Common Transgender Personalities
What is it like to be transsexual?


The Trans-Love Paradox

The ultimate irony of transgender love and attraction is that the transsexual women that are the least drama-filled, most successful and most evolved are usually post-operative transsexual women.

A byproduct of GRS is that it often reduces the drama associated with transsexuality (doesn’t eliminate it) and emotionally motivates a gal to get past being transgender - and get on with life as a woman.

However - most men primarily attracted to “transsexuals” - only seek the pre-op and non-op variety.

Therein lies the paradox of trans-love: what they physically desire (a woman with a penis) creates a basis for life-long drama that men often detest. However, the solution to resolving this life drama (GRS) - results in a physical manifestation of transsexuality many of these same men no longer find so alluring.

Funny, huh?

She Took Away My Toy

For some men, the attraction to a transgender woman ends if she has her final surgery. Phil, a 51-year-old banker - was with the same TS girlfriend for almost a decade. However, when she completed GRS? The relationship fizzled. “I felt like she took away my toy”.
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Other guys are even more intent on the subject. According to Ryan, a 43-year-old investment banker that prefers dating pre-op & non-op transgender women: “If I wanted a vagina I would just go date a regular girl. Why would I risk all the hassles from friends, family & co-workers finding out my fiancée used to be a man for something I can get anywhere? It’s just not worth it without that something extra.”

Ryan’s outlook magnifies the high rating some men put upon sexuality in a committed relationship.

Still, one can’t help but notice the irony of this situation and muse about where it all might end up in the years ahead. Many post-operative transsexual women offer the traits & lifestyles most male trans admirers yearn for & have a hard time finding in non post-operative transsexual women: confidence, success in their careers, tenderness in a loving relationship.