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MTF Detailed Transition Guide for Transsexual Women.

Sections include:


MTF Transition Tips Introduction
The Big Decision: Should I Transition?
Tips for Making a Gender Transition Successful
Financial Success for Transsexual Women
Fashion & Style Tips for Transsexual Women
MTF Transgender Surgery Tips Guide
Successful Love and Sex as a Transsexual Woman


MTF Transition Success: Making the Biggest Decision of your Life
MTF Transition - Detailed Guide
MTF Transition - Deciding to do it or Not
A Gender Transition: Final Checklist
Transgender Therapists Atlanta
Common Reasons We Feel Compelled to Change Genders
How Long Does it Take to Successfully Transition?
Hope for Anyone: What I looked like before transition
Common Mistakes of Beginning Transsexual Women
Defining a Successful MTF Transition
Where to Find a Doctor to Prescribe Hormone Replacement Therapy
Hormone Therapy MTF Transsexuals
Preparing to Start a Gender Transition
The Final Analysis on Transition

Gender Reassignment Surgery
Orchiectomy for MTF Transsexual Women
FFS Facial Feminization Surgery
MTF Transsexual Surgeries
Hormone Replacement Therapy for Transgender Women
Female Hormone Therapy MTF Transsexuals
Breast Development in MTF Transsexuals
MTF Transsexual Breast Enlargement
Breast Augmentation MTF
Transsexuals

Lactation and the Transsexual Woman
Injecting Silicone for Transsexual Women
Brazilian Hips and Buttock Enlargement
Average Body Size MTF Transgender
Male and Female Skeleton Transsexuals
Treatment of Young Transsexuals
Puberty in Adolescents MTF Transgender
Treatment of Young MTF Transsexuals
Treatment of Intersex Infants
Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome
Female Physical Beauty Transgender
Transgender Female Beauty
Exercise, Fitness and Diet for Transsexual Women


Fashion and Style Tips for MTF Transsexual Women
Fashion Mistakes of Transsexual Women
Shopping Resources for MTF TS Women
Key to Stealth for Transsexual Women
Transsexual Fashion Tips & Tricks


Financial Success for MTF Transsexual Women
The Working Transsexual Woman
Surviving the Financial Downturn from a Gender Transition
Financial and Career Traps for Transsexual Women
Overcoming Financial Devastation
How NOT to become a Transsexual Economic Victim
Business Success as a Transsexual Woman
Transgender Millionaires
Financial Success to TS Women
The Promising Future of Transsexual Women


Finding Love as a Transsexual Woman
Transssexual Women and Sex
Essential Considerations for Transsexual Love
Transsexual Erections Sexual Joy
Cleaning Up Your Act Before Starting on a Love Journey
Early Stage Gender Transition and Love
The Sexual Orientation of Transsexual Women
Sorting Out Your Sexual Orientation as a TS Woman
Transsexual Pregnancy
Marriage and the Transsexual Woman
The Transsexual Mother
Dating and Loving a Man - for Transsexual Women
The Secret to Finding the Perfect Man for Marriage - for TS Women
Lesbian Females with Transsexuals
Trans Lesbians: Love Between Two Transsexual Women
Transsexual Women that Love and Date Straight Females
Post Operative Transsexual Love

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The Definition of a Successful Gender Transition


In today's world of immediate access to on-line pharmacies providing HRT without a prescription & hoards of gender-bender tips sites, transition is easier than ever to begin. Starting...is by far the simplest part.

“Finishing” transition?
Successful Transition

That...is a whole lot tougher.

In the best of circumstances, a gender transition is
very difficult. However, if you’re forced to start your journey as a fairly masculine guy as I did? It's extremely challenging.

Additional chapters in This Section include:

MTF Transition Success: Making the Biggest Decision of your Life
MTF Transition - Detailed Guide
MTF Transition - Deciding to do it or Not
A Gender Transition: Final Checklist
Transgender Therapists Atlanta
Common Reasons We Feel Compelled to Change Genders
How Long Does it Take to Successfully Transition?
Hope for Anyone: What I looked like before transition
Common Mistakes of Beginning Transsexual Women
Defining a Successful MTF Transition
Where to Find a Doctor to Prescribe Hormone Replacement Therapy
Hormone Therapy MTF Transsexuals
Preparing to Start a Gender Transition
The Final Analysis on Transition

I'm going to be straight with you. If you're not naturally slim, trim & femme? Successfully transitioning
won't be easy. In fact? Finishing transition when you're starting so far out in the rough is sometimes almost impossible. If I had to do it over again? I couldn’t: it nearly killed me and I'm convinced I used-up all my nine-lives. I wouldn’t wish such a tough journey on my worst enemy: it’s that overwhelming.

However, I’ve witness girls that were only 5’2 and naturally stunning fail miserably at a gender transition against an oversized gal standing 6’5. Why’s that? It’s because the most important prerequisites for success have almost nothing to do with your physical stature.

I’m happier now: more joyful than ever before. The process of getting where I am today: of finishing transition? That was brutal.


How do we "finish" transition?


Good question.

Some gals envision a lovely appearance and operating seamlessly as a woman in society to be the pinnacle of their journey. Others earmark GRS as the big finish-line. Without a doubt, being complete in this latter manner creates a less drama-filled life as a transsexual female. Honestly? It's difficult to move beyond the haphazard lifestyle of a trans-woman to that of a balanced female without this final step. However, in today's world of ultra-easy access to information & resources on transition, we're witnessing a growing number of gals that race to this conclusion and haven't yet found total balance & acceptance in their new gender. Thus, GRS can most correctly be defined as a step...
not a pinnacle.

Personally? I don't characterize “finishing” transition by any physical criterion. Thus, how do we define the completion of a successful gender change?

Simple: we achieve a happy & healthy post-transition life as a woman.

I repeat...if and when you develop a happy & healthy life in your new gender: you won!

Becoming a Woman…who happens to be transgender



Evolving from a Transgender Woman to a “woman - who happens to be transgender is a very long road but your biggest and most important aim.

It requires
confidence in your new gender and the ability to not get rattled if and when you’re called out negatively for being trans; it requires comfort in your new gender - enough experience to kindly deal with every situation faced by women; it requires appropriateness in your style and presentation - the rules of female edict are well established - to make this work you’ve got to know them by heart.

Along with these personal goals you must also rebuild “a life” - with home, friends and family, a career and a love-life.

This entire process usually takes about ten years to
complete - where you enjoy a fulfilling post-transition existence.

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The Fives P’s of Transition Success



What are the most important attributes for a successful gender transition? A full head of hair, an extra small bodily frame?

Guess what?
None of the above

Success is primarily rooted primarily in your state of mind. Following are what I consider to be the most important mindsets to maintain in order to make your life and transition a success.

The Five P’s of Transition Success

Patience

A complete & successful transition where your life is subsequently well-balanced and you’re afforded opportunities commensurate to the ones like before transition will take approximately ten years - assuming your successful.

Without a doubt this was one of my biggest mistakes with my own transition. I felt confident I had a very solid plan with my business & personal evolution. What I didn’t anticipate was all the emotional setbacks I would face during the evolution of a new gender. Transition tends to create periods where you’re not thinking straight and highly susceptible to making bad decisions. This phase also often coincides with friends and loved ones being uncomfortable with our unique journey: a tough combination.

Even the major milestones…FFS, GRS…all require lots of subsequent patience. If you withstand consequential facial reconstruction? You’ll endure almost a year of subsequent swelling - particularly when you become exhausted. Recovery & dilating activities following GRS are a monumental challenge & usually requires years of consistent work to achieve the desired results. Also, it takes several years following GRS or an orchie before you witness consequential results with muscle atrophy & skin softening.

A successful gender transition is a marathon -
not a sprint. Enjoy the journey versus fixating upon the final destinations.
Persistence

Chapters in This Section include:

MTF Gender Transition Introduction
Secrets to a More Successful MTF Transition
Non-verbal Female Communication Skills
Five Keys to MTF Transition Success
Ten Most Common MTF Transition Traps
Finding an MTF Transition Mentor
Choosing Your New Name as a TS Woman
The Stealthy Transsexual Woman
Total Stealth for MTF Transsexual
Surviving an MTF Transition
Five Mistakes Transsexual Most Often Make with Transition
Success with a Partial Transition
Transgender Depression and Suicide
Shortcuts to a Successful MTF Transition
Final Steps to MTF Gender Transition

Hope it helps!

Persistence

Transsexuals that enjoy highly successful gender transitions are amongst the most persistent people on the planet. Successful transsexual women are the poster child’s for persistence. Making a plan, working that plan - those plans not working out - and starting over - sometimes, again and again…is a way of life for highly successful transsexual women.

Is that fair?

Nope!

There are so many roadblocks. Many plans might go awry. It’s not the setbacks that hurt most - it’s our
expectations coming up short.

Don’t stop, GF. Start again. Start anew. Smile!

Developing the habit of persistence when it comes to actualizing your dreams and goals is a key ingredient for transsexual success.

Peace of Mind

Perhaps the most important lesson I learned from my own transition was to never “conditionilize” happiness upon any future or present event - particularly verbally.

Ever caught yourself stating “I’ll be happy
when…”? We all tend to get into a habit of stating that phrase: I sure did. I would strongly suggest you learn to amend your choice of words to the actual outcome of future goals. For instance: I’ll be more comfortable when I have a higher income…or I’ll appear more feminine after my FFS surgery. Leave “happy” out of any conditional statement.

This is all about state of mind and using your subconscious thoughts to your advantage.

Happiness
is a decision - it’s a way of life. I discovered and realized I was “happy” when I was homeless and destitute. I forced a smile upon my face daily - even including “smile appointments” in my calendar to remind myself of this goodwill.

Count your blessings - there are many. Be calm. Use your positive thoughts as a weapon to achieve success.


Perfectionism

Without a doubt, my biggest obstacle with transition was perfectionism. This attribute killed more worthy aims than any other roadblock I faced. Many of us struggle with perfectionism.

The key to beating it back is to design plans that could aptly be described as “good to go” - versus some
perfect vision. If you’ve got 80% of a project completed? Its time to launch.

Don’t hold back your goals and objectives with perfectionism as I did. It’s destructive and debilitating.


P
riority

For transsexuals just starting transition, staying on priority is often a constant challenge.


Without a doubt, your most important priority is making sure you created a sound basis to earn a living now and throughout your transition. If your plan includes starting something totally new or receiving lots of money that hasn’t yet arrived? You must revaluate your plan. Starting new career or business endeavors is challenging in the best of circumstances. Attempting to tackle such projects while you’re in the middle of the distractions & insecurities associated with a gender-change is almost impossible. Likewise, if you’re expecting to receive some money that will play a big role in funding your transition? That money needs be in the bank
before you start. I can’t begin to tell you the number of girls I’ve known that let “contingent financing” ruin a good transition plan.

Distractions are the downside of priority. Got friends always robbing your time? Make new ones. Surrounded by negative impulses. Move - start over. Always revisit your priorities to make sure what you’re doing today is on track to get you where you
want to be in the future.



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The Five Most Common Mistakes of Beginning Transsexual Women


And How to Avoid Them…


There’s a few common mistake new girls often make at the start of transition. I made ‘em, others made them - I just don’t want you to also make them.

Okay?

I discuss the value of finding a physical mentor - a role model - if you will. However, your physical transformation is only a small part of
becoming female. Amazingly, it’s probably the easiest part. That’s saying a lot because its expensive, time consuming and grueling to develop a suitable feminine form.

Just keep in mind: happiness doesn't have a gender - nor does love.

Additional chapters in This Section include:

MTF Transition Success: Making the Biggest Decision of your Life
MTF Transition - Detailed Guide
MTF Transition - Deciding to do it or Not
A Gender Transition: Final Checklist
Transgender Therapists Atlanta
Common Reasons We Feel Compelled to Change Genders
How Long Does it Take to Successfully Transition?
Hope for Anyone: What I looked like before transition
Common Mistakes of Beginning Transsexual Women
Defining a Successful MTF Transition
Where to Find a Doctor to Prescribe Hormone Replacement Therapy
Hormone Therapy MTF Transsexuals
Preparing to Start a Gender Transition
The Final Analysis on Transition


Common Mistake #1: Putting Beauty Ahead of Electrolysis



The most common mistake made with transition plans is putting feminization & beauty surgeries ahead of completing electrolysis. Electrolysis sucks! It’s very painful, creates tons of swelling, is very expensive and time consuming. However, it’s still the only effective means of permanent facial hair removal. Lots of girls - including me - skipped this necessity assuming intensive laser would do the trick then jumped to FFS and breast implants.

Big mistake.

Smooth facial skin is a crucial element for a convincing feminine presentation. It makes pores appear smaller. It makes skin appear less ruddy. It’s the essence of feminine beauty.

The biggest nightmare of holding off completing electrolysis before FFS, breast augmentation and / or going full-time is that you have to let your facial hair grow out a bit before each electrolysis session.

Do you know what a nightmare
that is if you’re already full-time?

You don’t want to know, GF:
Finish the electro first - it’s a key to transition success.

Common Mistake #2: Thinking “being a girl” is going to make you happy


Without a doubt, one of the overwhelming mistakes made by beginners is thinking transition is going to “make you happy”.

It won’t.
Being a Woman - Happy


Rather, it should resolve a singular longstanding issue in your life. Some of us tend to start pointing at everything good in our life before transition as coming from “her”. The bad stuff? We heap on him. That’s a farce and trap - good and bad happens to everyone regardless of gender.

Make no mistake: transition won’t make you happy. In fact, the process is one of the loneliest journey’s known to human kind plus it’s financially devastating. If you face issues with depression before transition? You’ll test new boundaries doldrums along this way.

Transition will not
make you happy. If successful - which is unfortunately still rare in our community: a post-transition life can be very fulfilling. Unfortunately, the ten years leading to that success are often devastating. Reminds me of an old biblical quote: “Everybody wants to go to heaven - but nobody wants to die”.

Common Mistake #3: Obsessing over all things transgender



Another common mistake many of us make when we start transition is obsessing about all things transgender. It’s only natural: we’re excited.

However, we don’t realize it’s “all we talk about” - and that bores the hell out of friends, causing them to draw away from us - at the exact time we need them most.

Remain conscious how often you’re doing “tranny talk” - even with other transgender women. Transition is a state of change -
not a destination.

Move on - as fast as you can!

Common Mistake #4: Thinking men are the defining source of whose female



Another trap many of us get caught thinking is that if men find us appealing and want to sleep with us? We’ve
arrived as women.

Early in my own journey, I slept with more different men than I care to recall. The irony? I eventually discovered my sexual orientation was still directed towards women - where it was
before I started trans-ing. However, being intimate with a man…being desired by a man? Those experiences made more feel more feminine: more validated.

Men don’t define whose female: they’ll hump your leg when you look hot - and they’ll hump your leg in the checkout line at Kroger when you’re not wearing any makeup and your hair’s a mess.


Who determines if you’re now really a woman?

So if men don’t define the essence of becoming female: who does? Is it other full-time trans-women? No - but they’re sometimes a decent measure of immediate term progress.

Who defines women?

Other women.

You’ll know you’ve arrived as female after you’ve developed lots of close born-women friends and they completely embrace you as a woman. That process takes time but listen closely to the gate keepers as you grow.

The biggest mistake beginning trans-women make in building friendships with born women include:

1.
Taking compliments too literally: A big part of female culture is built around saying positive things about other women. It’s an opening for you to return a compliment - not bask.
2.
Talking about yourself too much: By default, women are trained to listen to ego-talk more than men. Men notoriously talk about themselves more than women. Women can talk as much or more - just not so much about themselves. Follow their cue: listen…and learn.
3.
Don’t hit on them: There is nothing more distasteful than an unwanted advance from someone you perceive as a friend. Don’t get caught up in that “best of both world’s” rhetoric. Be a friend. Stay classy.

Common Mistake #5: Thinking you’ll be the equivalent of a born-woman after GRS


Becoming post-operative is a pinnacle many trans-women dream about over a lifetime. It’s often a culmination of achievement and will solve lots of legal and emotional entanglements with your former male identity. However, it won’t suddenly cause the world or potential partners to embrace you as 100% female. Let’s face it, unless you make you're living as a stripper: who will know the difference anyway?
GRS Female

Being totally embraced as a woman is determined by your femme confidence, style, and heart. It takes a long time to achieve and can’t be bought by surgery. Don’t get trapped into thinking GRS will be a game-changer in this regard. That surgery is primarily for you - not others.
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Surviving a Gender Transition: The Four Most Essential Tips



Here, I’ve tried to boil down what are I think are the
most important tips to succeed with your transition.

1. You're Not Going to Win a Pony

A lot of us get caught up in “goal euphoria” as we transition. It’s a lot like those younger “big moment” birthdays: 16, 18, 21, 25…after those? There’s just life…life and
more life!
Gender Transition 3

A gender transition is much the same way: it’s very exciting to start HRT, start growing breasts, announce changes to the world, go full-time, get breast implants, get GRS, etc. However, after all that hoopla is done? You’re still suck with you. Same insecurities, identical challenges with your least-favorite uncle, etc.

There’s no big pay-off from transition. You’re
not going to win a pony.

The only goal is a happy life.

That’s a state of mind -
not a condition.

Chapters in This Section include:

MTF Gender Transition Introduction
Secrets to a More Successful MTF Transition
Non-verbal Female Communication Skills
Five Keys to MTF Transition Success
Ten Most Common MTF Transition Traps
Finding an MTF Transition Mentor
Choosing Your New Name as a TS Woman
The Stealthy Transsexual Woman
Total Stealth for MTF Transsexual
Surviving an MTF Transition
Five Mistakes Transsexual Most Often Make with Transition
Success with a Partial Transition
Transgender Depression and Suicide
Shortcuts to a Successful MTF Transition
Final Steps to MTF Gender Transition

Hope it helps!
2. Financial Stability is Key

Most every gal privately dreams of coming into a large sum of money…getting all her surgeries completed, looking amazing and restarting her new existence as the girl of her dreams. About the only place
this vision comes true? Fantasyland.

Keeping a job and staying focused on producing good work is more important to a successful transition than any surgery or new feminine skill: it’s the horse - that carries the rider.

It will require humility at your job and patience with your co-workers as they get accustomed to your
new presence. Don’t get frustrated if they’re not supportive at the onset. Your calm will steadily guide them to success.

You need financial stability far more than their approval. In time, one will solve the other.

3. Transition is Very Easy to Start & Very Hard to Finish

Starting the process of transition - even achieving a convincing and impressive female presentation is actually one of the easier aspects of changing genders.

Building a quality life? A life that includes close friends, quality associations with family, a meaningful and lucrative career, personal passions…those are often the most difficult goals to achieve post-transition. However, they are
the definition for success.

It’s very easy to
start this - but very challenging to attain eventual happiness.


4. A Successful Gender Transition is Marathon: not a Sprint

This journey to a fulfilling life in your new gender takes a very long time to achieve. I’ve witnessed more than one girl achieve a stunning presentation only to crash-and-burn against a less lovely trans-chick because she prioritized creating a hot-look over developing a healthy life. I almost fell into that former category early on, as well - even though I never exactly rated a “hot look”.

This whole process requires
years to achieve.

Be patient, be persistent, stay focused…and be happy! It’s a marathon -
not a sprint!

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Final Steps to MTF Gender Transition


You did it: you’re
finally female. You’ve been full time for a decade, you’ve got a good job & career, you’ve reconnected with loved ones and resolved those issues, your presentation is classy and other women embrace you as totally female.

Chapters in This Section include:

MTF Gender Transition Introduction
Secrets to a More Successful MTF Transition
Non-verbal Female Communication Skills
Five Keys to MTF Transition Success
Ten Most Common MTF Transition Traps
Finding an MTF Transition Mentor
Choosing Your New Name as a TS Woman
The Stealthy Transsexual Woman
Total Stealth for MTF Transsexual
Surviving an MTF Transition
Five Mistakes Transsexual Most Often Make with Transition
Success with a Partial Transition
Transgender Depression and Suicide
Shortcuts to a Successful MTF Transition
Final Steps to MTF Gender Transition

Hope it helps!

What’s the final steps to completely finish transition?

1. Disconnect from Trans World



You’ve probably already done this - but you need to almost completely disconnect from “trans-world”. I’m not saying you abandon old friends. Rather, let go of perpetuating controversial transgender subjects on-line: on Facebook, etc. Quit posting “modeling” photos in hopes of getting compliments, quit going to most transgender events.
Finishing Transition

We live in a binary society: there’s men, there’s women. You’re now a woman. Its time to live, breath and grow in that community. Stick to this until at least eight out of your best female friends are born-girls vs. trans-women - versus the other way around. This lifestyle change will result in more joy and happiness.

Your aim is simple: become “a woman who happens to be transgender” vs. “a transgender woman”.

You’ve arrived - live it.

2. Achieve Improved Financial Stability



The
last thing most transsexual women want to proudly share with others is her FICO score or personal financial statement. A gender transition is often devastating on a gal’s finances. Surgical costs are overwhelming, building a decent femme wardrobe is insanely expensive and all this happens while our ability to earn a decent living is often impaired. Bankruptcy is quite common - often necessary - in our community.

However, now that you’re
past transition - its time to start rebuilding your financial future. We start by improving our credit rating, exercising restraint with beauty and fashion purchases and embracing: “paying ourselves first” - as an essential human condition for creating “savings”.

I was once a transgender volunteer and community leader. I later realized I undertook those roles from my sense of passion. However, I should have been more focused upon
first building my non-trans life and establishing a more comfortable financial future.

“My Girls” - the one’s I directly helped with phases of transition will be the first to tell you how brutal I am about making finances a priority as soon as it's remotely possible. Lack of post-transition financial success and stability is a big drag on our community - no pun, intended. We love writing stories about how we went from male to female. What we really need? Excerpts about how we became
more financially successful as post-transition women than we did as men.

Achieving financial strength is often
another decade long process. However, getting it done results in the same sort of inner joy and personal freedom you found after successfully accomplishing transition.

3. Delete Your Victim Story



Every trans-woman has a “victim story”. For some of us? Its part of our identity. However, if you’re going to get on with the life you worked so hard to create, you’ll need to delete this aspect of your journey.

With each new day of your new life, the old memories will become more distant. Leverage that effect by letting go of past hurts and tough circumstances with your life and transition. Celebrate the now and immediate horizon. There’s no progress in living in the past!

You’ve got this, GF!


4. Don’t be Afraid to Bring the Man Back in Your Life



Early in our transition, we often go out of our way to eliminate all things male: in our psyche, habits and hobbies. However, those years of male experiences can serve your new woman well in a challenging world.

Don’t be afraid to “butch it up” when needed and draw upon that prior experience and energy. It's a part of you - and
all your aspects are what make you so very beautiful.

5. Give Back



Now that you achieved the pinnacle: a lovely woman who
also happens to be transgender - that lives intently as a female in a non-trans-existence and you’ve achieved personal financial strength? Its time to give back to future generations.

I try to limit my “community involvement” to writing at this website and occasionally mentoring select gals on transition.

My give-back beyond this website? I’m presently inspired to accomplish new entrepreneurial dreams. I’m hoping by accomplishing those visions I’ll be in a position to help support the many community causes that go unfunded.

We’ll see. Alas, we all need to try and give back in a meaningful way.

We all need a decent “give back” plan. What we do for others? Its all that remains when we’re gone!