"I like T-Girls"

  does this mean you're "gay"?

So you like t-girls, huh? Well, don't feel lonely honey - I like them too! In fact, almost everybody does. If you remove the "bible-thumping" types from the equation, you'll meet very few guys who aren't at least intrigued by the allure of an attractive, passable, t-girl.

It's been my experience that "t-girl attraction" - is a lot like masturbation: 5% of men admit to liking it, 5% are screwed up on some religion or cult, and the other 90% are just lying their asses off. ::)) 

Do you feel like you are the only guy "you know" who is drawn to us? Think again! Every weekend I meet guys ranging from janitors to Fortune 100 CEO's - who feel the same sense of "loneliness" and confusion you might be harboring right now. In fact, I'm willing to bet one of your closest male friends feels just like you do. Here's a little trick you can perform to discover which one it is. If you're out with your "buddies" - and you happen to see a t-girl - and everybody gives their opinions...the guy who is the most "vocal" about "not" being attracted to us - is the most interested. Trust me on that little "fact".

How do I know so much about "t-girl attraction"? Well, first off, I've been going out "as a woman" (en femme) - for a pretty long time. I've witnessed the phenomenon first hand. 

I also have a touch of "hard data" to support my opinions. One night, I was out with a GG (Genetic Girl) friend at a "non-tg friendly" bar. We got into this same discussion. I decided to test my theory, by letting her pick out "10 guys" for me to "hit on". The result in a nutshell: I got 8 out of ten to admit an "attraction" - and remember - she was picking those she figured would NOT be interested. I still think one of the two I didn't get - was just sandbagging - because his wife was so intrigued by the concept.

Suffice it to say, tg admirers are NOT in the minority. The only minority amongst them - is the very few that admit their desires to anyone else.

So why's it such a big deal to admit you're attracted to t-girls? Simple. It's that awful little three letter word... starts with "G"... ends in "Y"...do you know the one I'm talking about? At the very least, a guy gets labeled "bisexual" for such interest.

All this begs the million dollar question: "Is a guy really - gay - or bi - or what - if he's attracted to a t-girl"? Before I answer that question, lets discuss a few other subjects first. They will help us arrive at a more understandable conclusion.

my qualifications

Am I qualified to have an opinion worth considering on this issue? That's a fair question. I happen to think I'm over qualified! LOL

First off, I'm fairly unique. I've been in both roles - an "admirer" as well as a "t-girl" - and I've excelled at both. LOL For several years, I dated t-girls (as a guy) and frequented the "tg friendly" bars. In reality, I was less of an "admirer", and more of what I call an "emerging t-girl" - but we'll get into that more later.

For the last ten years or so, I've come to grips with my personal sense of sexuality. I've become a t-girl - period. I've worked hard to be good at it. Along the way, I've met all types of t-girls - from all across the country. I've also encountered just about every type of admirer you could imagine - from the famous - to the disgusting.

My "comprehensive" t-experience does several things. One, it gives me a fairly clear picture of what both "you" and "her" are feeling - and where those feelings "came" from. Two, it puts me in an ideal position to write about this subject. What started as a page of "tips" for meeting a gal like me - turned into more detailed data based upon questions and comments from readers. Today, following countless redrafts and updates - this "section" is known as "The T-Girl Admirer's Handbook".  

In summary, I know my stuff, sweetie.

what's so hot about tg's?

What's the attraction? I'm sure I'm preaching to the choir on this issue, but I'll tell you what I've found. It's the allure of something very different - the naughtiness - "if you will". The attraction is actually quite similar to the obsession most men have with bisexual and lesbian women - it's the "uniqueness" of the situation.

An attractive t-girl is without a doubt, one of the most intensely erotic creatures on earth. Long - smooth legs; powerful - yet feminine loins; a taste for wearing exotic clothing almost all the time; and of course - panties that fit differently. ::)) There's just so much in one package. 

Almost seems unfair, doesn't it? LOL

g-word obstacles

Pretty much every "masculine" guy initially has a big problem getting past the "g-word obstacle". His "buddy" below his belt tells him everything looks pretty good from "his" perspective. However, his alter-ego "upstairs" - usually veto's the possibilities almost immediately. 

"What if somebody I know saw me with this creature?", races through his mind - almost just as quickly as he adjusts his crotch area. And all this happens - before any other "anatomy" - even got a chance to cast their vote on the issue. Sound familiar? *Smile*

Here's a little reality check for you "guys". We t-girls have faced very similar challenges - in our own path to "tranz-sexual" discovery. You've probably spent as much intensity fretting over your "tranz-desires" - as we did about putting on our dresses. You've worried just as much about someone finding your little stash of "tranz-pornography" (magazines, on-line images and video's) - as we did (or do) about getting our silk panties located. You see, we actually have more "in common" than first meets the eye. ::))

So what's the big hang up? Simple. In society's eyes, to admit to this type of attraction is to acknowledge a "gay" feeling. If someone is not truly "gay" - such emotions often cause them to feel "less of a man". It's been my experience that most t-girl admirers are not gay. Unfortunately - to date - masculine men that are attracted to t-girls have never been given a "unique label". They've been cast away as some "subset" of the gay or bisexual worlds. Likewise, only a small percentage of the total number of t-girls classify themselves as bi or gay. 

Why do most "outsiders" first think we are all "gay". Beyond the obvious, I'd guess that the fact the largest percentage of t-girls most "first timers" see - are "gay" - as they are the ones doing most of the shows in DRAG clubs and on TV.

So what "are" we? 

Good question...

sex orientation versus gender identity

Before one can develop an informed opinion on the "proper" sexual identity of t-girl admirers, it is first helpful to comprehend the differences between "sexual orientation" - and "gender identity". A persons sexual orientation is defined as their ideal choice for a sexual partner (either men or women). 

Nobody knows for certain why some people are more easily attracted to members of the opposite sex (heterosexual) or the same sex (homosexual). Some scientists feel all people are born with the potential for bisexuality. However, most experts disagree as to the reasons we choose one sexual orientation over another. About half say its from biological factors. These may include a specific gene - that is inherited from a parent - or the effect of hormones in the mother's womb on the fetus.

Others believe ones sexual orientation is derived primarily from social and psychological factors. They site examples of men who get involved in a same sex physical relationship in a limited supply environment (prison) - but return to heterosexuality once this "condition" changes.

Regardless of which side of the "Trading Places" (certainly one of Eddie Murphy's BEST movies) concepts you "buy into", one thing is for certain: feminine sexuality expression or "transgenderism/transsexualism" - adds a whole new dimension to this already complex equation. 

In this variation, you add a feminine persona, gender identity, and appearance - to a male's body. Regardless if this person is a "girl" on a full time basis - or just over the weekend - "she" believes, feels, acts, and looks like - a woman! In fact, she is often more feminine in every way - except "anatomical" - than most women you know.

Does this mean a "masculine" man attracted to "her" is shifting his sexual orientation? I don't think so.

so what's going on here?

The old school of thought says that men who chase after t-girls, are pursuing a latent homosexual or bisexual desire. The story goes, such individuals are not yet comfortable being intimate with another masculine male. They see the soft femininity of a t-girl as the perfect "middle ground" to explore this desire.

My opinion? I'm not buying into this traditional perspective. I think what we've got here is a fresh new sexual category being born. Men who are attracted to "just men" (gays), are drawn by a lot more than a "penis". They feel more comfortable being intimate with a manly persona, touch, smell, and feel. 

Women who are attracted to only women (lesbians) are drawn for similar reasons. It's not the sexual organ that is most lesbians find offensive on "men" - but the "persona" and "accessories" attached to "it". LOL

With a t-girl, you get an interesting mixture of male and female elements - the best of both worlds - I feel. ::)) Most of the new "admirers" I've met over the past five years, have shown an increasing desire to be attracted exclusively to t-girls - and regular females. Their desire has not transformed into attraction to other masculine males.

I believe the growth in this segment is a function of two things. First, the number of men "exposed" to t-girls is much higher than ever before. In fact, this number has risen geometrically - due to the Internet. Used to be, a guy still had to face a clerk when he rented a "tranny flick" or bought a similar X-rated magazine. Many people who are living in small towns where there are no secrets - or were just a bit "shy" about this desire - just couldn't bring themselves over that hurdle. 

Second, the rising number of "active" t-girls - by active I mean you can "find them". Again, the Internet has been the driving force in this area's growth as well. "Gals" have found there are a lot of others "just like them" - and can quickly garner tips and ideas for looking highly feminine - that they might never have found otherwise.

I've watched the make up of the admirer group change significantly as the supply of t-girls has increased. Seems Reagan's old supply side theory of a generous supply creating its own demand actually had merit - he just picked the wrong economic model. ::))

What do we call this new male who is attracted only to genetic females and t-girls? It's not heterosexual, it's not bisexual, and it's certainly not homosexual. What we have here is something unique. For lack of a clinical term, I'll call this newfound sense of sexual orientation "Gender-Sexual - or G-Sexual" - since it is the "female gender" - and the feminine qualities that represents - in both transgenders (TG's) and genetic girls (GG's) - that attracts these men in the first place. 

g-sexualism

Okay, so you're "g-sexual". Now what? First, you must realize that you are not alone. In fact, you are very far from it, sweetie! You are a part of perhaps the fastest growing segment of sexual interest in the world.

Second, unless you already "know" otherwise, you aren't gay - and no amount of t-girl intimacy will change that. Gay men are not only attracted to the anatomical difference of men versus women - but more importantly - the very "nature" of a man's "being". Since t-girls tend to literally go overboard in not acting like a male in any way - we are usually the last thing a gay man seeks.

What will all this mean in the future? Assuming no "Adolph Hitler types" pop up and destroy the delicate balance of understanding that is currently evolving, we will some day live in a world where all people can express and enjoy there tastes in sexuality without subsequently being reclassified in terms of their sexual orientation. 

Together, we are the pioneers for this vision of future harmony - and I feel we must recognize the importance of what we are doing. Of course, there is nothing that says we can't have a little fun during the process. LOL 

types of "g-sexual" or "admirers"

Within the G-sexual group, my experience has revealed there are basically five "core types" of admirers. Most individuals are actually a combination of two, or even all of these "types". However, you rarely find an admirer outside these basic parameters. It will help immensely if you can determine which group you  identify most closely. It will help in finding the "right" t-girl for you!

the latent bisexual

This individual would fit the traditional description, but I see very few of them anymore. These are individuals who have strong bisexual tendencies, but are uncomfortable with beginning this process with a traditional male. They see a t-girl as a bridge to their desires. A t-girl tends to represent the perfect "middle ground" for these individuals - the smooth, soft femininity of a woman coupled with the intensity of a man - among other things! ::))

They are "vanishing" for obvious reasons - it's just not that big of a deal anymore - at least in comparison to past norms - to "admit" you have gay or bisexual leanings.

the timid bottom

Even though more guys than ever are confident with "coming out" - regarding bisexual or gay leanings - there are still plenty of guys that can't face the fact they're "bottoms" in such associations. Nothing gives them more pleasure via fantasy - or reality - than being "bent over and drilled" - by a lovely tranny.

This is the most challenging admirer persona when it comes to finding "satisfaction". Why? Because so few t-girls are interested in performing as "tops".

Simply stated - these men are attracted to "beauty" - and - "being on the bottom". A transsexual top seems like a perfect match. However, if they ever end up with the "right" smooth bodied, very attractive "guy" - they tend to transgress this timidity - rarely return to the arms of a t-girl lover.

the latent crossdresser

The next group is what I term the "latent cross dresser". They are actually a t-girl at heart, but for whatever reasons - be it their lifestyle, their physique, their access to information, or their fears - they have not - and may never - cross the line towards truly feminizing themselves . They will usually wear lingerie on some occasion, or at least get very turned on by the thought of doing so. This is typically the limit to their feminine adventure.

the emerging t-girl

A more extreme version of the latent cross dresser is the emerging t-girl. They are able to live their desires vicariously, by spending time with a t-girl. Guys who fantasize about being submissive to a t-girl often fall into this category. They often fantasize about being "forced into fem" - as a means of letting go of their masculinity. For some, the desire to "transform" is there - but it is simply not strong enough to pursue the matter fully. For others, they are more in touch with their fem side emotionally, than the t-girl they are eyeing at the bar. Some proceed - "cross the line". Others, stay on the fence indefinitely. This persona was "me" about ten years ago.

the eroticism lover

Another group is what I would call the eroticism lover - and sometimes "fanatic". LOL These people are attracted most by the erotic nature of the t-girl. You've got to be admit - there is nothing more sexually erotic than a hot looking t-girl. The intense rush of running your hands over smooth, stocking-covered thighs - and knowing something very different rests between them - is a pretty big turn on for many. Men who are very oral with women, tend to fit into this group. These individuals are usually not seeking any long term relationships. In fact, they typically get bored with one girl very quickly - variety is part of the eroticism they seek.

the eroticism plus

Another type of admirer, is the one who is attracted to the eroticism - but also the degree of courage it takes for a t-girl to live such a lifestyle. These people tend to be highly independent, and often forge a unique bond with a t-girl. They love the erotic nature of the girls, but they enjoy the shared sense of "individuality" as well.

which one are you?

I hate classifying people. I've been "labeled" too many times over the course of my life - and I rarely appreciated it. Many of you probably associate yourself to some degree with one or all of these groups - depending upon your mood at the time. However, I think it's important for you to be honest about which of these classifications most resembles your own desires and leanings.

You don't have to tell anybody, but you'd better be very honest with yourself - if you want to have some t-fun. I assume that's why you're reading this section in the first place. ::))

Why is it so important to see where you are? Each group tends to have different desires in a t-relationship than the other - both personally, and sexually. These desires equate to different "types" of t-girls, that are likely to be compatible with your unique desires.

Only you, know what you really feel - so lying about those desires to yourself - will cost you dearly in the "pleasure" department in the future.

Part of the challenge in finding a quality t-girl is that you've got tough competition - namely - women and other t-girls. Most t-girls are first attracted to women, then other t-girls. Many are not interested in a sexual relationship of any sort with another man. A lot are happily married, and any sexual relations they feel like exploring along this vein, are usually directed at other t-girls.

So, if you are ready to accept these bad odds, ready to endure a lot of rejections, ready to do some things you might even regret...then read on to the next sections - as I'm going to summarize everything I know.

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