"How Admirer's Evolve" 

  tranz-evolution

So you're stuck with an attraction to t-girls, huh? Well then - welcome to our club! *Laugh* If anyone possesses an understanding of all the frustration and trepidation you'll encounter over a "need" to be a part of the transgender community - it's us t-girls. ((hugs)) If you are going to be "a member" of our community - you'll want to "make friends" - and perhaps "make" much more. *Smile*

Make friends? I suppose that's "a ginger" way to put it. Sweetie, I recognize most of you beginners are pursuing this "association" due to that pent up sexual strain pressing against your trousers. However, I also know how badly you need to comprehend much more than "that" desire. 

If you are going to develop any form of "relationship" with a t-girl - whether for one night or a lifetime - you have a few things you need to understand about "her" - about "the relationship" - and about yourself.

The t-girl / masculine male relationship is not totally unlike traditional female / male relationships. Certainly, mother nature has built in some obvious "challenges". However, those attributes form a basis for the actual "attraction" process. Sound strange? Who cares! It's the life we are stuck "living" - so let's just focus on what we can do about it. ((hugs))

I've discovered that most admirers generally go through about "four phases" of tranz-evolution - regardless if they they ever "accept this" as a long term facet of their life. 

Ironically, these "phases" - are quite parallel - to the evolution of most t-girls as well. Go figure! *Smile* 

phase one: tranz-fascination

Most guys who develop "tranz-fascination" - do so first via "tranny" videos and/or graphic magazines. The Internet, and the inherent privacy it offers - allows easier access to "unique" pornography in the isolation of ones home - than ever before. This is causing a lot of people to more fully explore a brave new world of sexual leanings - including t-girls. 

A guy who is inherently attracted to t-girls rarely needs coaxing into the "process" He typically "knows" - from the first moment he actually sees a graphic image of a "chick with a dick". Deep inside his soul, he feels an instantaneous sexual desire for this creature. Remember that moment, honey? *Grin* I'll bet you can also recall how quickly as your "masculinity" cut in and said: "don't - you - fucking - dare!" LOL 

For an admirer to move beyond this stage is often a function of where he lives (geographically speaking - i.e. - t-girl availability) or his marital status (how closely his wife watches over his "external" affairs). *Grin* For most, this will always just remain a "fantasy" - which they will never really "understand" - or explore...

phase two: tranz-exploration

As an admirer's interest level increases, he might begin sharing hot graphic images of "the best" of our breed - with others online through newsgroups, etc. However, after viewing a full "hard drive" of sizzling t-photos - most every admirer is ready to pursue his fascination beyond the confines of his home. He wants to meet a t-girl!

Herein begins his odyssey - and subsequent "root" for initial failure "with us gals".  To this neophyte admirer, attraction to t-girls is primarily based in sexual exploration and erotic satisfaction. However, unless he's done a good bit of prefatory research, he doesn't yet understand that the object of his "affections" does not don such attire for sexual gratification - but rather - for alternative gender expression. 

Whether she deals with this "dysphasia" through total gender reassignment, silicone breast enhancement, or just a dress and heels on weekends - her basis for doing so - has a lot less to do with sexual gratification - than it does with expressing her femininity. In fact, I think most t-girls would agree  - "sexual gratification" becomes a much more elusive target once transgenderism pervades their life - than it ever was as in a "masculine male" persona.

Do you see why so many "new" admirers have trouble off the start? They are basing their attraction from below their belts - and they often erroneously assume "she" is dressing for the same reason. Wrong!!! LOL Her emotion is more closely tied to her heart - and its need to express "her". Sound familiar? It should. I told you before - this "relationship" is more like the traditional male / female bond than many think. And you thought I was kidding...LOL

It is this "misunderstanding" - that causes so many neophytes to do far better with a professional "t-girl escort" at the start of their big adventures - than by trying to chase an experienced t-girl on a "dating basis".

I see these types of admirers out every weekend. They never stand a chance - with anybody!

Some admirers remain "stuck" in "tranz-exploration". Why? Because they don't understand women! T-girls, "as a species", emulate females in almost every facet. Many, are 120% convinced - they are women. Any guy who doesn't possess a fairly in depth appreciation of "what makes women tick" - will be handicapped in the transsexual community. There are "differences". A person can't spend their entire life growing up as a guy - and rid himself of all the outlooks and experiences he has accumulated. However, t-girls are a lot more "female" than admirers who can't break clear of this "category" - will ever understand.

phase three: tranz-balance

Sooner or later, most admirers that invest some time - start letting "the big head" do the thinking for "the little head" - in their tranny quest. And "progress" - usually follows suit. 

They quit viewing the gals as total sex objects - but rather as "people" - of which they find "appealing". They understand this gal has a strong sex drive. However, like any woman - she's 'gotta believe you know what you're doing and why you are doing it - before she even starts to get turned on.

These fellows often become good friends with their "professional escorts" - garnering "freebies" along the way - as a source of pride and as a yardstick that proves they've evolved beyond that of the "beginning admirer". They often become "comrades" with a wide variety of t-girls - and identify the type that really "does it" for them. 

In the process of forming close bonds, some admirers lose sight of the deeper differences between "her & you" - particularly if the object of your affection lives full-time as a female and has had forms of body augmentation (i.e. breast enhancement). They start to feel their relationship is "special" - and become upset or shocked when she does something that indicates otherwise. 

Why the conflict? Because there are still some fairly substantial differences in "your lives". Very few admirers will go through the unsettling experience of altering their entire "existence" - including the wrath of loved ones and friends - by denouncing their "perceived" sexual orientation - to that of t-attraction. However, she usually has been through this challenging process. It is this underlying "hypocrisy" - that most certainly prohibits most full-time gals from ever totally "falling for you". Those that have done it once - rarely desire to risk enduring that pain ever again.

Ironically, the best match for admirers in this phase of evolution - is their parallel cousin on the t-girl side of the equation. Namely, a married t-gal - or one who is not "full time" - for the same reasons. Unfortunately, most admirers primarily seek gals that are more feminine than these sisters - and most of these t-girls aren't attracted to masculine men. However, I'm betting the "unmet needs" of both parties - will cause this segment to grow in numbers during the years ahead. "Nature" always seems to find a way...

For most admirers, "this" will never become an integral part of their "everyday" lives. They'll fit in their adventures as time permits, they'll develop associations with a variety of professional gals around the globe, and they'll have some fun "when possible" at tranny bars during their travels - or when "the wife" is out of town. The wealthiest admirers will sometime financially "support" a lovely girl - to insure exclusive fun. I've actually seen admirers invest in this exclusivity "together" - in order to control the expense - and keep a gal from moving on to another city.

However, because of their marriage, their job - or simply because they could never deal with the personal shame this relationship can muster - this is where these associations end.

phase four: long term tranz-lations

If you are finding yourself considering the possibility of making "her" a bigger part of your life - you must first evaluate a few key components. 

First, you must determine - is this "love" - or lust. Personally, I like "lust". I find the "sensation" - of being attracted to another person - to be one of life's most "delicious" experiences. However, I don't confuse this emotion with "love". I'm one of those people who has a lot of respect for the phrase - "I love you". I've said it to very few people outside of my family. I believe you must hold something "that "special" - upon an alter - and only serve it to those who are deserving of your most focused affections. If ever there was an instance where you need to garner a similar level of respect for the word "love" - this is it. Saying it - and acting on it - could change your life forever. 

For most males, only a full blown transsexual seems viable as a long term partner. However, unless your name is "Rockefeller" - or you intend to make this your daily lifestyle - a transsexual's relationship with you will remain "limited". And that's assuming you can even form such a union in the first place. The lack of "straight" male candidates that are "emotionally" available - is the primary reason most transsexuals end up going ahead and "cutting off their penises" - or end up living their lives with the handful of gay men that find them appealing.

the final analysis

Desiring, meeting, getting to know, and building a close relationship with a t-girl - can be a very long process. The most limiting factor is often "you" - and your own depth of understanding regarding your desires. 

As with us gals, finding the right sense of balance with "all of this" - is the key to happiness.

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