"T-Girl Sex...Myths & Realities"

  introduction - from your hostess - "dr. renee"

I've visited a lot of my sister's home pages. However, I've yet to see any girl take the subject of t-sex - "head" on. ::)) Being somewhat of the Net's "ask me anything" t-chick", I've decided to do so. Those of you who know me personally would agree: shyness - is not the "first" word that comes to mind when you think of "Renee". LOL

It's actually quite amazing when you think of it. The main reason most of you are at my home page, is in some manner tied to your sexual desires. Most of us girls dress more and more fem, to make us feel more sexy. Why nobody wants to talk about the realities of "sex" is beyond me. Well actually - obviously - it's not!  *Grin*

Fortunately for the reader, I've had some experience in the sex department. Unfortunately for Renee - it hasn't all been pleasant. I'm going to share what I feel will make yours better, based upon my "adventures" - and a few insights from some of my close girlfriends.

You may agree with some of my opinions - disagree with others. However, if you're relatively new to transgender related sex issues, you'll certainly walk away with some fresh perspectives.

t-sex basics

Wanna get naked with a t-girl? Sounds inviting, no? Before you drop your drawers and dive head first into t-sex, there are a few basic issues you'll want to be aware.

The first thing I'd suggest (if you haven't already done so), is that you review my analysis of the types of t-girls you'll likely encounter. It will give you a better grasp of some of the ideas & opinions I'm about to share: t-girl psychology 101

what's different?

Hmmmm. Let's see... soft, flowing hair; long smooth legs; full, kissable lips; ... wait a minute... what's that extra bulge at my panties? Okay, you got me. ::))

I'm a t-girl - and quite proud of it. In fact, I'm as proud of the masculine bulge at my midsection, as I am my feminine demeanor - both are simply - who I am. All us girls vary in terms of if we wish to be considered "females", "transsexuals", "males", "t-girl's", etc. However, we all have one thing in common - we start with something "extra" between our thighs.

Even though I don't care for the term, unless you're dealing with a former SRS (Sexual Reassignment Surgery) candidate, the girl in your arms is most certainly a "chick with a dick". Because of this anatomical variation, sex with this creature is certainly going to be a "bit" different from that of a genetic female. The variation in plumbing dictates a modified approach to pleasure - for every "body". ::))  For some strange reason, a lot of newcomers seem to forget this "little fact" - until the last minute. They get all caught up in thinking about the thrill of finally getting to it - then get lost - on how to really provide any meaningful enjoyment after the fact.

When you first hold her closely, you will likely notice she feels different than a comparable GG. Her loins are usually thicker - and more powerful than her female counterpart of a similar height. If you've ever been intimate with a female bodybuilder, you'll know exactly what you're in for. If not, just expect a good, solid ride. ::))

One thing I'd advise you to prepare for is a little razor burn from kissing. This will be particularly true if you meet a girl after she's been out a number of hours - and nature has begun to take it's course in facial hair growth. You might not see it beneath all that make up - but it's there - and you'll feel it if you kiss. The exception to this rule is girls who have undergone laser hair removal, electrolysis, or extensive hormone therapy.

Personally, as much as I absolutely love kissing during sex, I tend to be reluctant to do much of it as "Renee". Why? The full lips you see in my photo's aren't "all mine" - a lot of it is make up artistry. By kissing, I smear "the canvas" - which doesn't make me feel as feminine - which in turn makes me not feel - as sexy - which in turn - oh, you get the picture! Ask your girl about her feelings on heavy kissing - before you pucker up.

If you're dealing with a girl that has breast enhancements, you'll likely have a hard time keeping her "tits" in her bra. ::)) Most girls are quite proud of this "development", and usually aren't shy about showing them off. However, if your t-friend does not have such augmentation, she might not feel as comfy removing her bra. The exception is the gay tg or "DRAG Queen". Most of them are only too happy to get out of their female regalia, when it comes to sex.

"Flat-chested" women are often shy in this same manner. A lot of t-girls are sensitive about those features which do not look and feel feminine - and these feelings can be heightened at the moment of intimacy. Be sensitive to this emotion and you'll do best. A well timed compliment can work wonders here.

tops & bottoms

No, I'm not referring to bathing suits. ::)) Sexual "top's" are traditionally defined as the aggressor during intimacy. It is also the one who typically performs the act of intercourse. "Bottoms" are the more passive sexual partner and are usually on the receiving end of the "stick".

You will find few t-girls that are "tops". Most are highly feminine, and consider the traditionally "yielding" role of the female, as an integral part of their womanly persona. You will find some that are "versatile" - meaning they will both give and receive - but this is most common only in the t-girl/t-girl sexual encounter. In fact, I've seen some tg's who are "tops" with other t-girls, but "bottoms" with masculine males. As a general rule amongst bi-sexual tg's, most are interested in "receiving". 

The one "t-group" that bucks this trend is the "gay t-girl". In this group, you will find about half to be tops - assuming hormones have not affected her ability to achieve an erection. Don't ask me to explain why this is the case - I really don't know. I'm guessing it has something to do with how much easier it is to achieve sexual satisfaction on the "top" - and most gays I know understand how important satisfaction is to sexual pleasure. ::))

Incidentally, it is not considered "tactless" to clarify this issue relatively early with a t-girl. Certainly before you go off to crawl between the sheets - but not until she's made it clear she has a desire to do so.

safety

There are three types of safety you'll need to consider. First, would be the basic Freudian concern of "is somebody going to try and hurt you". The second issue is sexually transmitted diseases. The final safety matter has to do with your "reputation" - namely - indiscretion.

I never cease to be amazed by the lack of concern over bodily safety some male admirers will endure to be intimate with a t-girl. Certainly, it's an all time classic case of the "little head thinking for the big head". ::)) Primarily, this relates to guys who are picking girls up off the street. There are just a lot of inherent risks with such encounters.

If you are hooking up with a "non-working" t-girl, then the safety factor usually becomes more her concern, than yours. She has fewer options for "protection", than a masculine male. A girl who would go off to be intimate with some strange guy is a fool in my book. Most would never call the police if the guy got out of line (for fear of exposure), and few consider what they would do in such a crisis. You'll need to address her concerns regarding bodily safety, if you expect her to seriously consider meeting you privately.

disease protection

A lot of married admirers were already "hitched" before the AIDS epidemic went into full throttle. Many are the most careless in this regard than any other "group". Sexually transmitted diseases are a reality in today's world. Please keep in mind the dangers of unprotected sexual activities. 

It's really quite simple: "Don't do it!"

discretion

Many people attracted to tg's are concerned about indiscretion. They fret over the possibility of "her" telling someone about their little encounter. I have found this to be the least of your worries. If a girl is not "full time", she will most certainly be as much or more concerned about indiscretion than you will be. Why do you think she's not full time?

A full time professional girl is just that - a professional. She is interested in being paid for services rendered and being treated nicely. Take care of the latter, and you'll rarely have to worry about indiscretion.

Ironically, the most potentially "troublesome" girl is the full time TS that is not a professional. Sex with her is on "equal footing" from the start. If you are sincere, you couldn't ask for a better situation. However, if you are only playing a "game", well - beware or her wrath - if ya break her heart!

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