"T-Girl & Male Admirer Sex"

  how to get to heaven without having to die

Unfortunately for male admirer's, most tg's are not sexually attracted to masculine men. However, I've seen more than one who professed no such desire - end up doing it "once or twice". Sometimes, they got a "wild hair" - or just met an admirer that "did it" for them at the right moment. Let's face it, everybody gets extra horny - now and then. ::))

You catch the right girl, on the right night, at the right moment - and she'll do damn near "anything". "Timing" has a lot to do with sexual desires. Ever seen a woman that wasn't the case? ::)) Remember - these "guys" are now "girls" - which means "moods" & "maybe's" - have become staples in their everyday vocabularies. Sucks, doesn't it? LOL

straight talk

Some admirer's get a little pissed at the "cynicism" they receive from t-girls when out, or "on-line". Where do you think this attitude came from, sweetie?

Here's a little reality check from a girl that's been doing the "fem thing" for a very long time: most admirer's are basically "full of crap". They often talk about what they've "fantasized about" - in the same manner as what they actually desire. They'll talk about what "they'll do" - with no conscious concern on the difference in this statement - and reality. Most would never really "date" a t-girl, and amongst the few who would - about 1% would introduce them to a friend.

What does that feel like for a t-girl? The best way I can relate it: If you had a "job" - where you are asked to do a ton of work - but received no compensation or recognition. Ever had one of those? Not fun, was it?

Some of you I've corresponded with, continue your triage about not using a "professional" t-girl. Instead, you simply "hone" your skills - to shit on a girl who is totally sincere. Most of you just run around breaking hearts, without the first thought of how "she" might have felt. You will find some girls who are just out for the sex, but the lion's share require something else - to make intimacy special.

Most admirer's "t-urges" are spawned from having lusted over girls from on-line pornography, transsexual magazines, and XXX t-video's. It is one thing to look at such graphic representations and masturbate to mental images of you in the arms of this creature. It is quite another to realize this is a living, breathing, human being - with feelings and emotions just like any other girl. Sort of takes the edge off it for a second, doesn't it? ::))

Intimacy has very little to do with how much - or how little - you are wearing. It has to do with how much of yourself is shared with someone else. The platform for a high level of intimacy is already in place: as both male admirers and their t-girl counterparts start with more common thread than first meets the eye. Both share a desire (or "fetish", in real world terms) for a different brand of sexuality. Both can rarely share their unique desires with members of their daily clan. However, many male admirers forget there is a person beneath all that hair and make up. Bonding with this individual can make for much more pleasure than you could ever imagine! 

The reason so many t-girls are attracted to "one another" versus male admirers runs much deeper than the "lace and garters". It is a shared sense of comradery that is rarely enjoyed with a masculine man. It is a knowledge you are appreciated and understood on all levels - for who you are, where you've been, what you've learned in the process, and where you're going.

One of my favorite summations of this matter was written by the Lebanese poet, philosopher and artist - Kahlil Gibran. "Everyone can hear... but only the sensitive can understand".  As ironic as it may sound, sensitivity is the key - to the best sex of your life! ((hugs))

other consideration

I am a "lucky" t-girl. Renee is "financially secure". I don't know how my sisters on more limited budgets afford all their "stuff" they must buy. Every different "look" is $200 in make up; every separate hot "style" is $300 worth of clothes, shoes, jewelry & trimmings - not to mention the "basics". Never mind what that "other guy" in her life requires to look "presentable" - I just keep "mine" to pay the bills anyway! LOL

I'm going to put this as straight as I can, hon. You don't have to pay for the pleasure. You certainly don't need to show up at your date with the Hope Diamond (unless you come knocking on my door, of course - *grin*). However, you damn well better exhibit a little appreciation for all she goes through to look lovely and feminine. She has endured more humiliation from a tg-rude employee at Wal-Mart - than you'll likely taste all year.

the right girl for you

The most important question you must address is: "Why do you want to do this in the first place"? We all tend to do a lot of things in life without first considering our motivations. 

If you don't know what you're doing sexually - you can be in for a big mess. Any girl - "GG" or "T" - senses awkwardness just like "babies". Ever seen a person who doesn't know how hold an infant? The child gets irritated in a hurry. They start screaming and crying, and they move on to a person who knows how to make them feel all "comfy".

Let me let you in on a little "secret" for you newcomers. Sexual satisfaction with a "t-girl" - is different from GG's. It takes a little experience to be good at it. If you are not, it isn't going to be any fun for her - and likely won't be for you.

I know in a matter of seconds if I'm in the arms of an experienced lover - or a neophyte. Quite frankly, it isn't comforting to offer yourself to someone who doesn't know what they're doing. Why would I be motivated to want to teach someone I just met about "sex"? We're not 15 years old, hon.

For many of you the best option is to simply keep this whole thing a fantasy. It's easy, cheap, and not nearly as messy. LOL

This is particularly true if you would term yourself a cross dresser at heart. Why? Because if you're like most "hidden girls" - deep down inside - you are going to want to be the passive partner - and it's unlikely your new t-friend has much interest in relinquishing that role.

If any of the above scenario's apply to you - I'd still like to insist - as I did in my "how to meet a t-girl" section - you focus your initial sites on professional t-girls.

the road to heaven

Okay guys, I've been a little hard on you here. Still love me? ::)) I'll bet you couldn't wait to read this section...what a bummer, huh? LOL I had my motivations for being so straight forward. Did I just say "straight"? ::))

First, as unbelievable as it may seem, I think sex is pretty special. As I'm sure you've guessed, I feel t-girls are "extra" special. Therefore, I don't want to see such a super special occasion wasted on someone who doesn't deserve it. If you're still reading, then my guess is you're more sincere than most. Now let's talk about the "fun stuff". ::))

quick points of order

I have written a lot of information on my web page - from the perspective of a masculine male admirer. In case you're not aware, I started my t-life in this role - and recall the good and bad all too well. Most guys are under the impression that since they have a male sex organ - they will automatically know what feels good to another individual with the same equipment. Problem is, they might know the feeling - but they often know "zilch" about how to deliver the goods.

During their first time with a t-girl, most guys are fixated with touching and tasting her penis. The unique combination of smooth skin, hairless scrotum, silky garments and the sex of a male is sometimes enough to make the whole event "pleasurable" for the guy.

It's nice that you can have so much fun doing so, but it often does little for her, after the first minute or so. Everyone likes to know they're desired, but when your focus is more of an obsession, it reduces the pleasure.

Also, if you've never had sex with a t-girl, do both of us a favor and don't be afraid to "ask questions" during the process. I know most of you can't stand the thought of "stopping and asking directions" ::)). However, this is one piece of real estate where you can get lost in a hurry - regardless of how "familiar" the terrain appears at first glance.

the secret to great sex

Okay, boys - I'm going to let you in on a little secret. Having been in the role of both a guy and a gal in the sack over the course of my life, I've had the unique experience of living and enjoying both sides of the spectrum. There are a million things I could tell you that might help, but none so important as this: focus! What do I mean by focus? Simple. It doesn't matter if you are focusing on a romantic dinner, a hot kiss, or the best oral sex of your life - don't get distracted from the person or "object" in front of you.. 

As men, we are notorious for maintaining completely separate agendas to the one at hand. We take women to nice places in order "to get some". We buy them a gift - to get some. We "smooze" for hours - to get some. For once in your life - try a gift because she deserves it, a dinner because it would be nice, and "smoozing" - in order to really get to know her thoughts and feelings. Sex for women is typically a much deeper emotional experience than men. Getting her excited in her heart - will keep everything at a fever pitch in her panties. Pleasure doesn't always include an orgasm from your "buddy" between your thighs. Other parts of your body can enjoy similar heightened pleasure. 

I'm not saying you should stop and offer a flower in the midst of heated sex. Most girls would agree men can actually get too gentle and astray at that "moment".  

Try to imagine a world where there was only one option - in everything you do. Picture a world where there is no "number two" on your "list". Try living in that unique world when you are with her. It will result in better sex - I promise! ::))

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