"Feminizing 101"
 
looking like a real woman

make up application

Nothing will finalize your "fem" appearance more than make up. Its application is truly an art form in its own right.

You'll find the most basic tips in "teen girl" magazines. They are just learning how to look like "women" as well. Also, bookstores carry a lot of excellent material on this subject. Check the health and beauty sections.

My two favorite books on this subject are the Art of Illusion - A Guide to Crossdressing - Vol I and Making Faces. Both can be purchased at Amazon.com. No t-girl who is serious about looking a like a girl should be without them.

As some of you are aware, I recently planned to develop a comprehensive "on-line" guide including the exact steps I follow in transforming - and creating - "Renee". As usual - my "AAA", obsessive, compulsive, and psychotic "personality" - has bitten off more than she can chew. "2001" - is shaping up to be some kind of year - and I've got to remove a few projects from my plate.

Rather than leave you "without" the information I promised, I've tried to do the next best thing. Namely, I surfed around and found what I feel are the best on-line make up tips around - and have included links to them. 

Sorry to let you down. I do hope to undertake this project in the future.

the best transformation "tips" sites 

Following are what I consider the best transformation "tips" sites available on-line.

I'd suggest you set up a "transformation binder" - print all the data found at web pages. Try categorizing informative treasures with tab "separators" - so you can utilize it in a most efficient format. For instance, separate eyes, wigs, foundation & beard cover, etc. - whatever seems appropriate to you. If some sections overlap - include duplicate copies of information so that each section of your binder remains fully comprehensive.

A common mistake beginners make is assimilating too much information - and thus - become "overwhelmed" when they start applying make up. There are three tools I've found which are more than adequate data for the beginning girl. I don't feel you will need one additional scrap of paper if these are in your make up chest.

Cindy's Oasis - Unfortunately Cindy has moved both her site and herself to the Northern regions and neither can be found. However, Jacqui was smart enough to include Cindy's information in her tips area at T-Girls.net. It's good stuff - and you'll get a lot of great ideas from it. Go to the "features" section - and scroll down to the "back to school" area. 

Draag.com - This site and the tips they provide are first rate for the beginner. I doubt you'll find a better assimilation of wonderful ideas anywhere. I haven't had a makeover in years as I'm pretty picky about my "look" - - but even I'd trust this gal with my mug.

Making Faces &  Face Forward

Kevin Aucoin is pretty much the hot ticket right now in matters of "transforming" both  women and men via artistic make up. These books - which are loaded with example photos - provide an ideal resource for new and creative ideas in expanding your look. The links provided will allow you to order these fine resources from Amazon.com. However, most bookstores carry them as well.

Although you must pay a small annual membership fee to access the Transgender Forum, I feel it is often overlooked as an awesome resource for great "tips". I rarely have time to visit and review the weekly updates. However, the site includes a search engine where you can find tips on particular challenges you are "facing". *Smile*

I'm sure you have other sites you find helpful - but these include the methods most similar to my own - and I think their detail in presentation is first rate.

breast enhancement 

I think you'll find the information at Draag & Cindy's Oasis on how to get cleavage is just "tits" - literally and figuratively. ::)) With practice, you'll have more than one person assume yours are real. If you'll follow this this advice and maintain a decent exercise routine, you won't even have to purchase expensive breast forms.

I personally feel "fake" breasts take away from a convincing fem look - if you are in a position to keep your chest shaved. I know a lot of girls wouldn't dare step out the door without their breast enhancers firmly in place. However, I feel There is nothing wrong with being a little "flat chested. It allows you to reap the benefits of wearing the lowest cut bras, blouses, and dresses - with the confidence of your own flesh showing. By using the tools available such as make up shading and push up bras, you can easily look like a b-cup, without the subsequent hassle of having to remove your armor during more intimate moments. I prefer it that way! ::))

breast forms 

SHOW RIGHT & "wrong"

Taping Them

Pull them "apart"

What I would "not" do - is wear forms with insanely tight fitting dresses. This clingly look may seem appealing in your mirror - but in "real life" - it looks like a dress with fake breasts.

I think you'll find the information at Draag & Cindy's Oasis on how to get cleavage is just "tits" - literally and figuratively. ::)) With practice, you'll have more than one person assume yours are real. If you'll follow this this advice and maintain a decent exercise routine, you won't even have

makeovers 

Your best avenue is to get a make up artist experienced in working with cross dressers to help you learn how to properly apply facial make up. Some advertise locally, and others promote their services on-line. There are so many neat "tricks" which will really magnify your feminine beauty that only an experienced cross dresser tends to know. Make your best effort to hook up with such a professional somewhere along the way.

Your next best option is an Avon, Mary Kay or Merle Norman rep (commission types aren't as picky) to assist you in learning how to do it properly - by giving you a makeover. Only problem with the latter group, is they will try to sell you a lot of supplies. This often times works to your advantage however, as many new girls buy a lot of the wrong stuff - resulting in a lot more wasted money than if they bought quality right out of the gate.

I was always too "chicken" to do this early on, so I just had to read and practice - and make big messes. ::)) I'd suggest you muster the courage. You'll get some great ideas on how to improve your make up from any professional. I regret having not done this earlier in my development.

If you run into specific challenges with make up application, I'd suggest you visit the newsgroup: alt.fashion.crossdressing. Post your question or review the topics and input of others. You'll find some very nice and helpful people there.

nails & toes

Perhaps nothing will enhance you fem appearance as easily as painting your nails and toes. Start your fem nail development by getting a basic "male" manicure and pedicure if you can. You will discover that pushing back the cuticle will be of great benefit in helping to reduce smearing as you paint.

Personally, I try to keep my nails right in between "male & "female". How? I use a nail file every three or four days and shape them to a slightly pointed basis (trim the sides & corners) - while keeping the length to a "non-noticeable" level. They don't look feminine without polish - but add the paint, and they appear to "grow" in length. Try finding a length you won't get comments with. Also, don't be afraid to test a variety of nail polish colors. We all tend to naturally gravitate to red - but you'll find it fun to mix up your palette now and then.

I use the "quick dry" nail polish, because I rarely have time to go through the waiting period for traditional formulas to dry. However, I often add a light coat of clear sealant enamel, because the "quick dry" colors tend to wear-off very easily.

Once you get the hang of working with nail polish remover, you can get the color off in minutes. Don't buy any of the "fancy versions" of polish remover. Acetone is acetone - is acetone! ::))

Have to be honest, getting nail tips put on by a pro is unbeatable. I've never been able to do it right myself.

Nails are decidely my "weakest" link. In case you haven't noticed from most of my photos, I rarely even paint them anymore - let alone color them. Why? The usual female reason - I'm always running late when I'm headed out. Since I take my pictures upon retuirning home - I'm not about to add them "then".

I wore the press on version. They really do look good. However, make certain everything is done before you apply them. And I do mean everytihing.

I wore them when I visited my dear friend Lady ashely in Philly - as she always gave me grief about not having them in my pictures. Never a good time to give another queen ammo to trash you. 

However: nail tips don't come off easily! The first time I had them done I got myself in a real mess, because I couldn't totally remove them. I had to go into a meeting "hiding" my hands until I could leave and have the remnants removed. That experience was "one for my diary". ::))

Don't forget your toes! Painting your toes is so very easy, and you can leave them painted as long as you are not going to have to remove your socks in front of someone who wouldn't understand. Painted toes add such a perfect touch to your illusion. And everything, which adds to your image of femininity is in my opinion - a plus. They don't show if you wear pumps, which is another reason (along with comfort) I prefer open-toed shoes. I pretty much always go with red in this department as it covers so well as my nails are not in the best of condition. Again, cover your base coat with a coat of clear sealer and you'll enjoy the "glow" for a very long time.

a hairy subject

I realize a lot of you are not in a position to shave your legs and arms. According to a TG girlfriend of mine (Cindy), there are several ways around this little problem. The easiest and most common method to mask hair, is to wear "suntan" pantyhose under all your items as a color base. Two or three pair will hide even the hairiest of legs. Several firms sell complete "body stockings" which will cover ya from head to toe for this little problem. Also, a set of opera gloves will do wonders for dark, hairy arms. If you are able, you can shave the tops of your thighs to a point where you can look good in stockings and garters, and still "show" hairy legs in shorts.

For less intimate attire, the process is much easier to deal with. Long sleeve blouses, dresses, etc. will hide the thickest forest. Just remember, this much "layering" can change your size a bit - so if that skirt was a little tight to start - it may need an alteration now. Also, it's a bit "warm" - dress accordingly. ::))

Another option is long sleeved Lycra outfits. These garments offer the dual effect of covering the hair on your arms, and slimming your biceps - all in one fell swoop. Try to buy them as slim fitting as possible, without being so tight to make you look overweight.

more skin = more femme

Want to know how experienced tranny's always spot a new girl in a crowded bar? Simple. Look for the gal with no skin on display. Their arms are covered, 

Too heavy? Not. 

Body hair?

Tan Lines

There is nothing I enjoy more than fem tan lines - and they are so very easy to achieve and maintain. I start off by visiting a tanning bed to get the basic lines I'm looking for. 

I used to take a pair of "string-sided" panties in my pocket, and put them on in the privacy of my booth after I've applied my lotion. Incidentally, I used the same panties each time I tan so I could keep the lines the same and intensify the contrast over time. Of course, I had to wash them now & the. *Smile*

Another trick I used is to adjust the rear of your panties inward, so the outer edges of your buns get tan. This caused my hips to appear wider than they actually were. At the time, I wasn't in a position to tan in a higher waisted woman's bathing suit. By using "panties", I kept the tan line "below the belt" - so to speak. If you'll pull your panties "up"  - above those tan lines as you wear them, it shows off your lines in a sexy manner.

Your second "tanning" option is to wear a string bikini top and create the illusion that you have breasts. I do this in the winter when I know I won't face concerns about removing my shirt in front of others. It provides a fairly convincing look, which you can accentuate with a coating of light colored foundation make up before going out en fem. Being able to do this, is a matter of if you're personal lifestyle will afford you this option.

I now tan with a high-waisted thong bikini style woman's bathing suit. I've reached a point where I really don't care if I go to the beach as a guy - I'm more interested in looked feminine as a girl - when I'm down to almost nothing.

My personal lifestyle affords me this freedom. Most part time t-girls can't do "this" final option.

Wearing panties situated slightly below this "painted" line creates a powerful illusion when it comes to "appearing" to have wider hips.

Tanning beds are pretty hard on your skin. Whatever you do - do not tan your face! You will be wearing so much make up, it won't matter. Your face already gets too much sun exposure just from being outside. Most of the better beds have a button you can shut off the rays to your face - use it!

I only use the non-burning beds - and go as few times as possible. I support this base with light applications of self-tanning milk. I reiterate "light", because if you use too much of the stuff - it will come off on everything you own.

Once you get your basic lines, a once a month trip to the bed and weekly application of lotion will keep it looking good.

other feminine illusions

The higher the heels - the better your behind is going to look. I don't have wide hips or a nice behind. 

I have slim thighs - but oversized calves. Thus, high heels are basically a necessity.

Because I wear such a wide variety of make up styles, wig colors & lengths - it can be difficult to tell it's me at first glance. They always say - nah, look at the calves - that's "Renee".

Large thighs get slimmed by higher heels.

You literally have to practice poking your "butt" out.

that female "stroll"

Having trouble getting used to sway your hips? Dramatize the use of your hand.

clearing the arms

I remove all the hair from my arms.

sitting like a lady

Side stepping the legs. Other than crossing your legs in a more "compressive" fashion - also have three other mannerisms most common to femininity.

tucking

If you are going to the beach at some point, one skill you might find helpful to develop is "tucking". Tucking is basically the process of hiding your male genitalia from view.

In case you haven't noticed from my photo's, I don't typically give a flying crap about tucking. I'm a t-girl - and quite proud of it. Typically, you can just adjust your inventory and stand in such a way that nothing ever shows. However, if you wish to hide your masculinity in a tight fitting bathing suit, this is often your best option.

The process is relatively simple. Carefully, slide each of your testicles up into the scrotum area above your sac, and subsequently tape them in place. I do one testicle at a time. Mine are a little large, and I can't seem to "hold it all together" as I prepare to tape. ::)) Some new girls get frightened by this process for fear their jewels will somehow get lost. Trust me honey - they are nicely attached and will find there way home. Finally, take your "friend" and tuck him nice and neatly between your legs. Some girls suggest taping him as well but they never mention what you are supposed to do when you must pee. I leave mine alone. Usually, a pair of snug panties or a bathing suit will hold your little operation in place. 

Instructions on Tucking 

"butt", nothing!

Certainly one of the most distinguishing female features of genetic females is wide hips - and a curvy behind. Unless you are just very "lucky", this will usually not be your "strong" suit.

If you have narrow hips (as most of us "non-hormone" girls do), there are a number of things you can try to present a more feminine figure.

This is certainly one of the easier problems to solve. There are numerous enhancers available for this area of your body. The best ones really look good. I bought a $40.00 version from Frederick's several years ago, but wore it only with loose skirts and jeans - because the padding was so unevenly distributed.

One night while out clubbing, I met up with an old girlfriend from Key West who is a rather famous tg. She has been featured on HBO a couple of times - and is absolutely stunning. One of her most impressive features is her hips and behind. Her form allows her to wear the tightest skirts and pants - and put any woman to shame. The truth is: it's not her form - but her enhancer.

If I were going to invest in just one enhancement product, hips would be it. It's quite easy to create breasts - tape, coloring, exercise, wonderbras - the list of options is almost endless. Hips and behinds are as easy not so easily improved. You can wear multiple sets of pantyhose, but this did little but add bulk on me.

Also, since our legs are typically the best feature we have, why not add to the allure where the eyes go first anyway. Building "off your strengths" - has always been my mantra.

A couple of tips on getting an "enhancer": First, stay away from the "voluptuous" versions unless you've got the body to match it. I did this initially, and it looked silly. Second, when wearing your enhancer - pull it "down" a bit. We tend to be long waisted and women's curves start lower than ours. Use the mirror to guide you.

 A nice set of hip enhancers will look great on you. It will also slim the appearance of your waist by expanding the hips. I've included a link where I got mine. They offer a custom fitted unit. One thing I like about them is you can send your unit back for modification for a reasonable charge. That beats the heck out of most custom things I buy that don't work - and I get stuck with them.

Classic Curves - For Top of the Line Hip Enhancers

I've reached a point where I rarely wear such devices since my outfits are usually a little short on material. To alleviate this problem, I first focused on posture. It's actually not that difficult to learn to stand and walk with your behind poking out a bit. Standing should include bending to the side. Finally, most of my short skirts are 100% cotton, which possesses enough support to automatically cause a flared appearance of the hips.

reality check

Are you starting to feel a little like Frankenstein? Let's see... your chest is "taped" together, your face is plastered with powders and paints, and your hips are "bulging" with padding. Does all this make you feel less feminine? It shouldn't. Not one of these products or "enhancement methods" was invented for a t-girl. They were all developed for - and continue to be used by - genetic females.

Did you know that a decent percentage of models you see on the covers of magazines, make that "cleavage shot" look so good with duct tape? It's true, hon. I used to date one of those Barbie's.

By using every method available to enhance your fem appearance, you will have officially joined the ranks of womanhood. Congrats, 'sis!! ::))

feminine voice development

Included is a link to a girl with a whole program on improving your fem voice. This is certainly my weakest point - as I have one of those strong, male, "radio" voices that is great for speeches, but sucks in a dress. ::))