All of us who are queer get accustomed to being judged, ridiculed and attacked by LGBT-Phobic people in this world: goes with the turf.
I'm more respectful of another person's constitution-given right to "disagree" with my life than most: as long as that same person doesn't impede my own constitutional rights in pursuit of my happiness. Who am I to judge their opinions just because they differ from mine?
Recently had my third negative encounter with a wanna-be actor in Atlanta known as Wanda Morganstern. Mind you - I've never actually met this woman face-to-face: wouldn't recognize her if I saw her on an elevator. However - for some reason - she's obsessed with trashing me for the simple fact I was born transgender.
This sort of trans-phobic, hate-spewing has no place in the arts!
Wanda Morganstern's Transgender Phobia
My first encounter with Wanda Morganstern occurred during her divorce - I was forced to get a lawyer and provide a deposition in response to completely false allegations she made regarding interactions between myself and her soon to be Ex-husband. Although she never met me and didn't know me - she accused us of having an affair.
As I've often encountered with trans-phobia, it would appear Wanda Morganstern didn't understand the big difference between gender identity and sexual orientation. In my experience, what most of these people see is that a transsexual is just the gayest form of gay - so gay, in fact: we added breasts and decided to present as a woman.
Of course, anyone who knows me knows: I'm 100% lesbian - not remotely wired sexually to men. Accusing me of having an affair with your ex-husband is like some guy accusing Richard Simmons of f**king his ex-wife: laughable. I ignored her bigoted judgement in my court-filed legal response - sticking to the facts that no such connection ever happened and the professional relationship that was our reality.
Fast forward a few years long after their divorce. Every time Wanda Morganstern's car broke down or she didn't have enough money for rent? She would reach out to Steven for help. Too often - out of sheer kindness - he would help her financially. As we were preparing for our new business expansion - he asked that I allow Wanda to represent us on the new lease as a means to help dig her out of the financial grave he understood her to then be living. What followed were a series of disrespectful and nasty emails which I can only assume were tied to LGBT-phobia.
I found working with her as a "vendor" completely intolerable - we negated her representation. The highly skilled professionals that replaced her were nearly flawless - and earned themselves a commission following our move of almost $200,000. Seems trans-phobia is not only ugly - its also unprofitable.
The final straw came recently when a friend alerted me about a completely inaccurate hate-spewing Facebook page Wanda Morganstern created that included a screenshot image about the she / "man" working with Dr. M. Was it really necessary to add me into her hate speech platform once again? She's never met me - but continues to drag the fact I'm transgender into her expression.
I ignored Wanda Morganstern's attack and negative comments twice previously. This third time was a charm for my sense of reasonableness - hence this public response.
In her most recent Facebook post that also included her newest trans-hating post ridiculing my life - Wanda Morganstern went on a complete tirade regarding how being married to Dr. Morganstern ruined her life and completely depleted her self image.
Yet - even after only being married to him for only about six months - she opted to keep his last name for her legal identity following their spilt?
Who does that?
According to her Facebook rant, that marriage was the worst event in her life journey - yet she keeps his last name - after a marriage that lasted a few minutes longer than a hockey season?
A dear friend of mine offered potential insight into why Wanda might have done that.
A couple of years after their divorce, my best friend Kristin - then a manager at the Apple store in Lenox Mall at the time - was called over to deal with a customer with a particular problem. How did Wanda introduce herself to my dear trans-friend? As "Mrs. Steven Morganstern". Kristin knew Steven well enough to know he wasn't married to her but played along.
Kristin - whose Jewish & was a film major in college - explained that the film industry is one of the few businesses where being Jewish can be helpful to your career and Wanda "Morganstern" perhaps kept the last name in order to improve her potential success with acting. That sounds like a pretty sleazy conclusion.
Most people I've seen hold onto a new name did so to try and escape ghosts from an ugly past associated with their previous last name. I'm guessing people just wished her Happy Hanukah. That's laughable!
Wanda Morganstern - the Actor
Art - by classic definition is a manifestation of human expression. It comes in many forms and those of us who spent our life within artistic expression tend to be the most accepting of different forms of human expression - like being gay, lesbian or transgender: it's our essence. The film industry is full of great artists - I have life-long friends in that business including Academy Award winning directors, cinematographers, actors and actresses. They were among the first to openly support me in my transgender journey. I couldn't have made it without them.
For someone whose actions show such LGBT-phobic hatred - to be trying to make a career as an artist? Sickens me. Alas, I really can't judge Wanda Morganstern's skill as an actor - her real film clips are measured in seconds: not hours.
However, in my opinion - outside of perhaps acting in a film with an anti-LGBT slant? Her actions point to a person not suited for the arts community.
Wanda Morganstern would be the last person I would include in a film.